SELF ESTEEM IS ALL THAT MATTERS

                                                                                                                                                       Written by                                                                                                                                    Pranab Dutta

Many people complain about their low self esteem and this remains in their mind until they do not put effort to negate it completely. What is self esteem by the way? Self esteem forms a part of psychology. It reflects how a person evaluates or appraises his or her self worth. It is also an enduring personality trait that exists through long or short variations, or remains consistent or can surge high too. Emotions like ‘I am useless’, ‘I can do nothing’ or ‘I am incompetent’ are all the feelings that arise out of low self esteem that even lowers your confidence levels. Some of the beliefs like pride, shame, despair, success in you also refer to self esteem. In contrast to low self esteem, when a person feels good within and believes in weighing himself or herself in positive way, it means that their self esteem is good and can even rise up to higher levels with achievements, encouragement oneself, or any other activities that give you contentment and increase your true worth.

Why do people lose out on self esteem? There are several causes that give rise to low self esteem. Many times, a lot of negative and disturbing statements others make about you can put your self esteem at stake that you will climb down in the emotional dimensions that were well before. But it is important to understand that the environment and the people of the outside world should not affect the your pure and untouched inner self. Other reasons may be falling short in achieving your dreams or meeting challenges, which damage the way you regard yourself. People with low self esteem compromise in weak situations and yield to them easily, which can overall affect their well-being.

Issues related to self esteem can be inherent as well. And, it also depends on the environment you live in. Constant presence of low self esteem can turn into cynicism, frustration, short temper and other unpleasant emotional reactions in the later part of your life. Actually speaking, self esteem is an insidious problem and a lot of individuals blame their problems instead of focusing on inner peace and working on increasing how high they regard themselves.

How can you increase your self esteem? Having higher self esteem makes you competent, successful and brings about vital change in your emotions and emotional reactions. The best way to improve your self esteem is to change your self-image – the way you see yourself. You can respect yourself more and accomplish what you want with conscious and positive self-talk that augments and sustains greater self esteem.

Make positive affirmations whenever you feel that your self esteem is taking a beating and eradicate the negativity. Most important is to maintain constant positive thoughts by putting an end to self destructive thinking. It is just that our expectations and thoughts shape who we are and what we turn out to be. And, the quality of your life is completely dependent on what you do to become a person with great self image, self worth and confidence Our brain cannot support two contradicting notions at once. Hence, one of the two notions has to take a higher seat, so let positivity occupy that place. Then you can literally see as well as feel that your beliefs have turned real. And, here is the new you with more of confidence and valuable self esteem walking around with emotional energy that will further boost your physical energy and you can just smile off many of your issues. So love yourself and keep going!